He loves us as we are. Just as us.
I believe that one person can live life without getting married, without having that romantic relationship and still be completely fulfilled in God.
God said man should not be alone- but you can be single and not alone.
Community. Friendships. Family
All these things are important, they can fulfil someone, they can be the relationships you are meant to have for a lifetime. ‘Not alone’ means in be in community.
There is a common misconception (yes mostly in the church!) that we should all be married and settling down by 25…if not well before. We have this idea that once someone hits 19/20 all they are looking for is a husband/wife.
Not Fair. Not True.
Yes many want to get married and many desire that life. I know that I do. But I also know that the pressure to be has made me reject being single as an awful thing.
It is not. It is a gift. I have more time to spend with God. I have the freedom to completely drop everything and move country if God asks me to. I can do things I love without worrying about someone else’s schedule. I can eat all the ice-cream without having to share 🙂 and decorate my room with pink things.
But ultimately I know that for now, for this season it is best for me to be single.
and that is good. God says so. Maybe that will change but I have no idea where life will go, or what will happen.
It is equally good to be married and be single, it is equal in Gods eyes.
Either way if you are focusing your eyes on God and devoting everything to him then your heart will be fulfilled in him.
So lets just ask one another what exciting things are happening in our lives, rather than focusing on everyone’s relationship status. Lets accept everyone for the amazing person they were created to be and not judge them on their relationship status.
Married people are not boring- trust me I know a few of them.
Single people are not depressed and lonely- trust me I am one.
People with a boyfriend/ girlfriend are not necessarily going to walk down the aisle just because you think or say it is about time they did- give them a chance to figure it out!
Thus ends my little external process. What do you all think?